It’s tough to know what to share next. I don’t see myself as having fully “risen” from the ruins, so I think there will be topics of interest as I continue on. Some effects of divorce are long-lasting…like tough stuff with the kids…while others evolve as I do, with healing and moving on. It seems easier for me to story my past experiences than express the current conundrums in my heart and mind. Relating a story requires less vulnerability than trying to muddle through rediscovering who I am, what I want, my hopes and heart desires.
My hope for “Rising from Ruins” has always been to help others by sharing my experience, and the experience doesn’t stop with making it through the grief stages, thank God. Surely and hopefully, there is more. And I surely cannot be the only divorcee to wonder about life and love after divorce. Or to hope for God to grant another shot yet meanwhile praying to be content if He doesn’t. Or to work at rocking the socks of single-parenting while simultaneously feeling the exhaustion from it.
So. All that to say that I realize the blogs have slowed down. There are things of the past left unsaid for now, maybe forever. And there are things about the future that I’m just starting to feel and wonder and try to put into words. I’m also considering sharing about my life as a little girl because I’m pretty sure the unusual circumstances of my childhood are what built the faith that got me through the hard times of my adulthood. All this may be slow-go, but – as always, I appreciate all the love and support you guys give, as I wait for what’s next for me and for the blog.
Bo, you have always inspired me. Even when we first met in college. I was so sad to hear of the divorce and everything that transpired, but reading your blogs has been a blessing in more ways than I think you’ll ever know. While I know that divorce is not something God ever intends to happen, I know that He takes circumstances that are very messy, and turns them into such blessings if we lean on Him and allow Him to do it. Thank you for sharing your blog. I look forward to reading whatever you publish next, as it’s always full of wisdom and so inspiring. God bless you, friend. 💗
Bonita, you rock!
God has just begun to use you.
Love you, dear.
Bonita,
I heard you speak today at the Hokes bluff women’s conference and it really blessed me. You are so loved. Thank you for your honesty. I know it wasn’t easy to share. My parents went through something very similar and I was raised by my mom from age 7 on. I am now 41 with a family of my own. I’m still working through it too.
As always, great job ! Keep allowing God’s presence to come over you as you write. God has placed you here for this time and for His Word to go forth thru you ! I’m so Thankful for all God has and will do ! Love you !!!!!